Sometimes you just have to say no to somethings.
I am finding more and more, in various aspects of my life, that it is totally fine for me to say no to something if I want to.
Thats not me being rude of anything like that, its just me deciding to do what is right for me and makes me happy, and sometimes that means saying no to others requests.
I am one of those people who likes to help family and friends in whatever way I can and make sure those closest to me are happy. Sometimes that means my own happiness can be compromised, and then I end up bitching about it. So now I have made the conscious decision, that unless what I am being asked to do, whether in my personal or business life, works for me & my life, my answer will be firm and polite no.
There is no shame or disrespect in saying no. Sometimes I will explain to the person why I have said no, and other times, I so not feel I need to explain my decision. Its my choice to say yes or no, and I can no longer say yes to things, at the detriment of my own happiness.