I'm putting me first, and I am not ashamed to say it.
This bank holiday weekend, I was speaking with two of my gorgeous girlfriends, and we talked about various different things, as we always do. One of the things we were talking about was relationships and how often times as women we settle and compromise our own happiness, just to be able to fit with what our partner / husband wants.
This conversation got me thinking. Why? When did we stop valuing ourselves to think we should go with the flow, to the detriment of our own happiness? This does not only apply to spouses / partners, it also applies to friends, co-workers, other family members, in fact most areas of our lives.
It is not selfish to put yourself first, in fact if you don't, you're actually no good to anybody, because who wants you when you are not 100% you? Your happiness is essential to a healthy life. If something or someone does not make you happy do something about it. Whether that's speaking to the person, and asking them to fix up. Maybe its leaving that job or relationship because you know deep down things will never change. It could be telling that friend you don't like how they treat you. Whatever it is, you are worth more than living an unhappy life just to please another.
We are made to feel that we are bad person if we put ourselves first, and that is so not true. I am the best mum I can be, when I am happy. When I am unhappy, my whole household knows about it. I am snappy, moody, I am just not fun to be around, but since I have started putting my own happiness first, fun mum is back in the building. I am a better friend, a better sister, a better person in general, when I am happy. That is true for most, if not all of us.
We have one life to live, who wants to get to the end of their life and think, "Damn, I was not happy with my life", not me.
“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry our their dream.” - Les Brown
Do what makes you happy. Live your life, go for your dreams, be positive.
A happy you, is a better you. This chapter in my life is all about my personal happiness, if it does not make me happy, I'm moving on.
Your happiness is a necessity, and nobody should make you feel guilty for that.